The way to get what you want is not to do what you want. You have choices to make. Everyone does. Choices are hard to make because many factors go into every one, and other people make them more difficult. Everywhere you turn you are being offered someone’s opinion. They tell you what to do and how to do it. And the more opinions you have, the harder it is to choose. People tell you that to get what you want you should do what you want, and that is easy advice to follow. The easy way is to do everything you enjoy and avoid what makes you uncomfortable. The problem with this is that you never do what you need to do. And if you avoid the things you need to do you will never get what you want.
Sometimes it is good to do what you want. The things you enjoy allow you to relax and center yourself on what matters. They are a guide on your journey and a reset when you need it. We all need those things at times. But if you only do the things you want to do, you will never force yourself to act. Imagining a better life is one thing. Working towards one is another. To be someone different you must do what you have never done. If you only do what you want, you cannot become someone different.
If you want to become someone different you need to find a way to bridge the gap between doing what you want and getting what you want. The way to bridge this gap is to do what you do not want to do. So, figure out what you want to do or who you want to become and work backward. Chances are, there will be many obstacles on the path you will have to work through. They will not be easy, and you will not enjoy them. And that is a good thing. That means they are hard choices. And that is the way to bridge the gap. You must do them to get where you want to go even if you want to avoid them.
It is easy to avoid things in life. But those choices are what hold you back. Avoiding what you do not want to do stops you from achieving your goals. The things you avoid stop you from becoming the person you want to be. Your goals require certain things of you. There is no room for picking and choosing what you do and do not like. You must choose to do what is necessary to get what you want.
To get what you want you must bridge the gap by doing what you would rather avoid. Getting better does not mean you only do the things you want to do. Quite the opposite. It means you get to work and do what you need to do. You do the things you do not want to do to go where you want to go. And remember you get to do them.